No doubt about it, this one is going to hurt. It's the "beauty meets the beast" time again. Whenever Venus has a "hard" encounter with Saturn, you definitely feel less valued; you feel the lack of love. There is probably some problem that has come to a head in a relationship; there is a choice to be made that will change it (or end it). But, of course, the real challenge lies within you; with your values and self-worth. It really is all about your love of self.
Venus has been in Cancer since July 4; bathing in the waters of family, nurturing and doing what feels right. Saturn throws down the challenge from Libra; you just cannot do what feels right to you without (equally) taking the other into consideration. Yes, you should follow your feelings, but you have to be guided by principles of fairness and reciprocity too.
So the problem will appear as if someone is being too selfish; they are clamoring for and getting their needs met while not acknowledging the legitimate needs of the other. Or someone is just being too rigid about maintaining "the balance" in the relationship; they are not being responsive enough (spontaneous) when the situation requires that.
It comes down to a seeming struggle between emotion and reason, feelings and principles, and neither side is going to be happy, and, of course, both are right! So what do you do? The struggle and answer, of course, is within you. You must strike the right balance, a dynamic ever-adjusting balance, between your caring/cared for self and your principled/reasoning self. The problem appears "out there" (and it is there in them, most certainly), but it is out there so you can face it within yourself.
The lesson comes from Saturn, he is the shaper here, and so Venus must let go of that lesser, possessive, demanding and needing way of loving so that it can evolve into its truer, higher expression. If you stay too attached to your familiar ways you will not be able to love yourself or another as you must...unconditionally. For that is the only way you can create the conditions for true love; because then you will consider and treat yourself equally as you do the other, (because you understand "the mystery", that in the other I meet myself). And you will likewise create the conditions for the other to return the same unconditional love to you.
The answer, as always, is to look within, to your soul and heart and see the wonder there...It is your shining, starborn self, who is love, and is the guarantor of your everlasting, unfolding value in this universe.
And, you are never alone. You are accompanied on this journey of self-realization through relationship by a great host of shining ones who seek as do you the answer to that question, "Do you love me?"
In your heart you will find your answer, and so speak the words of understanding: "I am that, I am." (I and thou, we are one).
Love yourself, love another. Shine on!